INTRODUCTION
Man by nature is a social animal. We meet people on daily basis. Sometime we are crowded thoughtfully by virtue of memories of old friends and those we missed. This is a clear indication that friendship is not about the human figure you see but rather, it's about the qualities, characters, and attributes accumulated inside the human figure you meet.
The kind of people you associate yourself with, will to an extend determine where you will be tomorrow. Negative people are products of negative peer influence.Often times we found ourselves entangled in negative web. Sometimes we meet the wrong persons first so that when we finally meet the right ones, we will appreciate GOD for the value of friendship.
Before we start it will be useful to
identify what we mean by a “negative friends." Basically we’re talking
about people, relatively close to us, whether in family ties, physical
proximity, or that we see extremely often, maybe because they’re co-workers,
we’re roommates, go to school together, or just because we’re family.
Without further due, here are the 5
Tips To Help You Deal With Negative People.
1. Identify/know them
In life you’ll be meeting people that drive you
forward, inspire you, help you be the best that you can be. But also,
unfortunately, you’ll meet people that for some reason take you down, slow you
down, or just don’t help you move forward.
Ideally you identify the negative people. Recognising the negative friends is your first step to freedom.
How do you identify them? Clearly define your goals, dreams and aspirations in life. Whoever does not share in your dreams, nor support your dreams and visions will definitely kill your dreams.
Yes, make a list with their names, and to the right you write one word
that best describe what you don’t like about that person. When you’re forced to put one word that describe each
of the negative people you come across, it helps you be better prepared to deal
with their negativity, becuase you’ll know what you’re dealing with beforehand.
2. Don’t
give them all the attention you used to give them.
Time is a perishable asset that you can't recycle nor redeemed. You can't retrieve the years you've wasted but you can make up for them. What you pay attention to will determine what you will achieve. You cannot manifest your dreams until you wake up to use your time wisely. You wouldn't want to waste your time with negative people i guess? Remember, you don’t want these people taking so much
of your time and energy. That's the more reason you should dispose them before they pull you to their web. You have to think: it’s either them, or your future. They’ll find someone else, a more receptive ear to
their complains, so they’ll start slowly going away. And that’s a good thing
for you. If you’re thinking “I’d like to have them around, but just be less
negative” you’re getting into fuzzy territory. You’re asking them to change.
And maybe they want to, and maybe they can’t, or they just don’t want to…
3. Let them
know you want more positivisty in your life
Everyone assumes that everyone remains the same. But
that’s hardly ever the case. We, as human being, keep changing. You
could share with your closest people, especially the people you’ve
identified as having a negative attitude, that you’re changing. That you want
something better, more positive for your life. Don’t worry, you don’t have to be blunt. You
could drop hints in your conversations with them and never deviate from such trend.
If you don’t want to say anything, you could print
some positive signs and place them around the house or whatever you see these
people. For instance “A positive mind gets positive results.” or “If you don’t
like what you’re getting, change what you’re doing.” There are really tons of
quotes you could find. Go for the ones that most resonate with you.
4. Shield
your mind (and your heart).
When you see negative people coming
your way, quickly identify what’s his or her main negative thing. For instance,
envy, or complainer. Next time you’re around that person you’ll be a bit more
“prepared” internally to deal with the things that bother you. Eventually you
could explore why is it that envy, for instance, bothers you so much. Maybe you
could find things about yourself and envy that you don’t like. Just saying…
You could even try to share your
thoughts with that person about envy, or maybe you could tell your truth
openly… -good luck with that. Remember, when talking about someone’s flaws
(according to you) you can go the polite way, or the harsh way. Being
tactful is recommended.
5. Fight
tooth and nail.
Remember what’s at stake here: Your
life, your happiness. Fight tooth and nail to defend that. Stand for what you know is right. And a negative
environment, sooner or later gets to you, whether you realize it or not. You’ll
know it when it’s really late, when you start believing that the world is a
mean and nasty place. Yeah, I know, it can be sometimes. But knowing about it,
is not the same as living in that world all the time.
Always be alert, but it's
really tough (and draining) to be alert all the time to combat negative message
other people keep sharing. Get away from those people. Run away, if possible.
If you can’t actually run away physically from those people, at
least travel with your mind. Be physically present, but mentally live in
your positive world.
Some people could say hiding away is
not a mature way of solving the issue. I agree. But when the issue can’t be
solved, I’m aiming at protecting you from the “disease” of negative people.
Hey, I didn’t say it was going to be
easy! Good luck. Really. The world needs more positive people like yourself.
We’re going to be here for you. Never forget that. Have an Inspowered day!
BY KAKIS
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